Adios “Amigos”

I was well into writing this strained and indulgent (my signature style) screed on why I left Facebook yesterday (on its 15th anniversary – yay unintended coincidences!). Then it hit me. Even after I chose to no longer use my time or energy on Facebook I was USING MY TIME AND ENERGY talking about why […]

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Dr. Nolove or: How I Learned to Stop Looking for Love or Anything Like It: Part 21: Self Portraits

Preamble: this is a dating advice series from a formerly long-suffering comrade in the struggle. I’m out of the game for life but I’m offering up some hard-earned wisdom for those still grappling. (See bottom of this post for the legend, mission statement, and credentials.) The following are self-portraits that capture my visage from the first […]

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As An Addict I Find

I don’t want to be who I am anymore. Is that possible? Addicts who are surviving say relapse is always lurking and can never be fully extinguished. The dark fire is always there. Tonight I made a terrible mistake. I’ve made so many mistakes lately. I’ve made so many mistakes forever. Are they really mistakes […]

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Remembering Happy Meals

I was eating lunch at Panda Express in Alexandria, Va (I unashamedly love their Orange Chicken) when I noticed, sitting a few a feet away from me, were two little Hispanic kids (I’d say age 6 and 9 or so) and their father eating lunch as well. My 5 readers know I’m Hispanic; I’m not […]

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Dr. Nolove or: How I Learned to Stop Looking for Love or Anything Like It: Part 20: She Did Respond.

Preamble: this is a dating advice series from a formerly long-suffering comrade in the struggle. I’m out of the game for life but I’m offering up some hard-earned wisdom for those still grappling. (See bottom of this post for the legend, mission statement, and credentials.) Question: She didn’t respond to my text/email/DM/@/snapchat/voicemail (gross!)/whatever. What do you […]

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