Dr. Nolove or: How I Learned to Stop Looking for Love or Anything Like It: Part 20: She Did Respond.

stevePreamble: this is a dating advice series from a formerly long-suffering comrade in the struggle. I’m out of the game for life but I’m offering up some hard-earned wisdom for those still grappling. (See bottom of this post for the legend, mission statement, and credentials.)

Question: She didn’t respond to my text/email/DM/@/snapchat/voicemail (gross!)/whatever. What do you think it means? Blah blah bullshit theories blah rationalization blah blah.

AnswerED: She did respond.

She received the message

She read the message

She understood the message

The fact that she is not responding IS the message

Again. Say it with me.

She received the message

She read the message

She understood the message

The fact that she is not responding IS the message

And for the third charming time. As Dex says in the brilliant The Tao of Steve: “I’m gonna tell you this one last time and maybe you should tattoo it on your dick so you don’t forget, okay?”

She received the message

She read the message

She understood the message

The fact that she is NOT responding IS the message

I mentioned this in one of my ghosting columns but I think it’s important enough to repeat. A good friend of mine was asking me to interpret a non-response a few days ago and I just shook my head.

Don’t waste your time. She’s not wasting her’s.

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DISCLAIMERS:

Mankind has given me many names. Among my names is Dr. NoLove, House Foolsrush, Thirteenth of My Name, the Burnt, King of the Unlucks and the Last Men, Khal of the Cul-de-sac, Breaker of Mine Own Heart, Big Baby Deezus, Father of the Rejections, the One True Holy and Apostolic Dating Jesus (the photo below is my cousin Buddy – we have the same chin).

All of these rubrics are meaningless.

I am the state (of dating).

I am the one scrub with many faces.

I am the erring and the untruth and the dullness.

Your finite measures cannot contain me.

I am become dating, the destroyer of love.

Mission Statement:

The key master is here, in the days after this shell’s darkest hour, to pass on the lessons we have learned after 7,882 days (we have dated 200+ women dated in 22 years) in this desert. Like Hova, I have dated them so you wouldn’t have to. 

Credentials:

Who am I to comment on dating? 

  • 22 years of dating (IRL and Online)
  • Dating experience on three continents and seven major metropolitan areas
  • Early online dating adopter (suffering since 1996)
  • I’ve been on a date with 200+ unique, and all wonderful in their own way, women
  • Produced a 90,000 word creative writing portfolio devoted to online dating trials and, well, trials

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